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Among the gifts given to me by the department head tonight, one of them is a photo book. In addition to my department colleagues’ messages and gratitude to me, there are also some training photos I took in Singapore, Southeast Asia and Germany from 2014 onwards. Now in retrospect, I did a lot of cross-field training, including product, sales, after-sales service, customer care, inter-departmental communication workshops within the company, and the current corporate mindfulness, which has not only helped the participants in my training, colleagues in the company, but also have made me grow a lot. I found that there was a photo of me meditating in the office. It turned out to be a photo taken by my department head when I was not paying attention. I am very grateful to him. The strong support of the company has allowed me to give full play to my training expertise and the training topics I have always wanted to do in the past six years

 

Michael

From Woodlands, Singapore 20201211

 

I remember that many years ago, my supervisor needed to participate in the assessment of the company's global managers. This is not only an honor for personal work performance, but also the company's affirmation of his personal leadership and management ability. He specially invited me to his preparation and I am also grateful for his appreciation and provided one of the themes in my leadership course, which is the training-related experience of how the supervisor meets with colleagues for his reference, and he also passed the test with his own efforts. He also specially introduced me to another manager colleague from Germany stationed in Singapore from other departments and hoped I could also give him some advice. When we met, this colleague asked me about the procedural structure of meetings with subordinates. I suggest that before he enters the meeting theme, he can chat first to ease the tension between each other, and then slowly cut into the theme, gradually leading the conversation to the pre-set goal of the meeting, but the most important key is that the supervisor knows to avoid preconceived ideas and stick to his own opinions. Use the "name" of communication to force or reason with subordinate and how to control the quality of the meeting also involves the quality of the questions raised by the supervisor. Just like holding the steering wheel while driving, manager must know how to steer the conversation. Finally. I am also very happy that this German colleague also passed the test and was transferred back to the headquarters of the German corporate group

 

Michael

From Taoyuan, Taiwan 20210320

Yesterday I was sitting on the merry-go-round. On the way up the mountain in the middle of the night, I saw two little girls carrying lanterns and following their parents and grand parents up the mountain. There should be no children who can refuse the magic of the merry-go-round, especially in the forest at night. It’s a coincidence that sitting next to me was one of the little girls. There was a grandma standing next to her. Grandma told her granddaughter: Be careful not to fall, and what to do if you get injured? The grandpa in the distance said: Don’t worry too much, she knows. At this time, I heard the little girl sitting on the wooden horse say: I will protect myself. Looking at her frowning eyes and hearing her firm tone, what she shows is firmness. The tone declared to everyone: I can do it, like a brave female warrior. At this moment, I thought to myself: Many children have brave traits since they were young, and they may be worn away under the unconscious worry or protection of adults when grown up. After that, it will be difficult for them to find a way to regain the courage to face life.

 

Michael

From Taichung, Taiwan 20210312

 

I remember that some participants who went to corporate mindfulness shared with me how to relieve stress from mindfulness courses, or to live in a more relaxed state. This is a good motivation for learning, but sometimes it may hinder learning if not consciously; In today’s meditation practice, I have always felt a tangled air between my eyebrows. I tried many mindfulness techniques, but I still didn’t see it subside. At this time, if I still cling to this discomfort, and hope it must disappear or lessen, and it will only let myself more uncomfortable and feel tighter; it is like in the life course of a person, learning to accept the loss of what is not gained, and understanding to accept the regret of what is lost. Although these sorrows make life imperfect, only these pains can be used to make life more complete

 

Michael

From Taichung, Taiwan 20210309

 

Today, my wife accidentally fell and twisted her ankle while walking. Fortunately, she was caught by my son. This is what I heard from my daughter afterwards, because when the incident happened, I walked behind them and walked slowly. I didn’t find any abnormalities. I knew that when my son ran over to tell me, when I saw my wife, she was already sitting on the floor. At this time, I squatted down in front of her and asked her about her condition, but to my surprise, My son and daughter said to me in unison: Give mother some space, they are surprisingly calm, and my wife also said to me: I need a little time to be with the pain; at that moment I decided to do nothing, just stay with my wife; soon after, my wife was able to stand and walk, but at this time both my son and daughter wanted to go and help their mother to walk, which made me see again that compassion and love have always existed in everyone's heart, and they have been there since childhood , but because of various inexplicable factors, we deliberately hide them

 

Michael

From Taichung, Taiwan 20210218

 

Sitting by the pool and watching my son swimming in the pool, I feel my body is quite relaxed and maybe it’s because I just finished swimming . When I close my eyes and feel that the temperature in Singapore has dropped recently, even the wind has become stronger. The sound of the water column flushing, when the wind blows on the body, it seems to blow away the boundary between the skin and the body, and it blows more, the skin becomes more blurred, or even disappeared. Even every breath from the nose to the stomach seems to follow every gust of wind. When mixed together, "I" seems to be the wind and the sound of water. The consciousness of "I" is blurred. It is just the sound of wind and water. Even the chair I was sitting on is gone.

 

Michael

From Woodlands, Singapore 20201207
 

 

Walking on the road today, I saw a little girl playing one-legged jumping on the floor with a smile on her face, and immediately behind her came a response that looked like her grandma and said: You jump like this, after a minute you will break your tooth when you fall. I saw Grandma’s expression with pain and anxiety, but she also seemed unable to stop her granddaughter’s behavior. This scene should be familiar to everyone. Many persuasion from the elders is mostly worrying rather than appreciating, strict orders have concealed care and love, thinking that the other party will understand, or one day they will know their intentions as elders. However, the deeper problem behind it is that they can’t perceive what this automated reaction model brings to them and others is pain, and the next generation is almost hypnotized and forced to accept and internalize, but once someone realizes it with awareness, he or her can change this family lock.

 

Michael

From Woodlands, Singapore 20201129

 

Thinking of the process of my daughter making breakfast yesterday, I heard her tell me: Dad, you go out first, because you are here I will be under pressure. At that moment, I had many subtle emotions, thoughts and impulses, including: surprise, happiness, grievance, worry, fear and behind these emotional energy were a series of thoughts and dialogue debates: I use a gentle tone, you can tell me your needs, I did not want to give you guidance, you may have the risk of injury, the motivation for my daughter’s high achievement and the opportunity to build self-worth, many of these thoughts come from my own imagination and deduction. In the past, I would not observe my emotions and thoughts so carefully. When the dish was brought by her out to the living room to share with me, I praised her but decided to ask her: You said you will be under pressure, and ask Dad to come out. Dad has two thoughts to ask you, is it because you have high expectations of yourself and want to do it well? Or simply want to be alone and not be disturbed? What is your idea? Then she said to me: I want to do it independently, without relying on my dad.  I am happy to hear her saying that because I have clarified the subtext in my heart. All of this can only be communicated on the basis of awareness to cross check and avoid misunderstanding

 

Michael

From Woodlands, Singapore 20200906

 

Last night my daughter cried suddenly. When I walked into the room, my son said his sister was crying and asked me to deal with it as soon as possible. At this time, I picked up my daughter and felt that she was really heavy. When I took her to the bed and invited her to sit with me first，then I asked her: Why are you crying? She said back to me: She was afraid, I said: What are you afraid of? She said: coronavirus, which suddenly reminded me that she was so scared at a young age, not to mention other adults. I also thought that maybe I could try somatic experiencing with her. Then I invited her to take a few deep breaths, at the same holding her hand and doing it with her, it was obvious that her tears and sobbing had blocked her nostrils. As her breathing eased, I asked her to slowly feel where the comfort lies inside the body. She told me it was her hand and feeling a bit warm, it happened to be the left hand I was holding. I also asked her to imagine if there are any colors? She said: pink, at this moment, she was already relaxed and lying on the bed, and I then asked her to feel where she felt afraid? She quickly pointed the part of the back of the head, so I asked her to try to see if she could bring the temperature of the hand to the position of the head, but I found it was difficult for her, so I changed my strategy and lifted her left hand together, moved it to the top of her head, let the temperature of the hand be with that fear, and experimented if this warmth could spread to the entire head and instill the entire upper body. During the process, she suddenly opened her eyes and told me how long it would last? I was happy at that time because she was obviously getting better, so I told her that it would be over in 2 to 3 minutes

 

Michael

From Woodlands, Singapore 20200723

 

Just now my daughter was scared by her mother’s intervening behavior because she almost accidentally touched the confirmation key of shopping website on Mom’s mobile phone. When my wife reminded me that our daughter’s shock had to be coped with first , I began slowly applying the somatic experiencing technique, escorting her to experience her physiology with that shock in her body. In the beginning, I invited her to recognize where is the shock? How big is that shock? What color is it? also letting my daughter to hold my hand to feel the warmth and temperature of my hand. Through my guidance, my daughter gradually felt that the shock become smaller, and the scare also moved from the chest to the thigh, to the calf and finally disappeared; it was nice to see my daughter regain her sweet smile again.

 

Michael,

From Woodlands in Singapore, 2020426